Relationship is a serious Business.

Unlike those period where  one could inherit a property from a relative on the ticket of uncle or most commonly father’s inheritance, the gradual alterations in the extended family system and the inevitable winds of civilization is making such a system of inheritance  defunct.

In our modern days, succession plans are documented and binding. One is expected to workout his future instead of relying on a father or an Uncle for a family property.

 Interesting enough, a concocted story has been carved out of the creation story.  Jokingly,  it  is said that when the creator of the universe created man(Adam), he felt lonely and requested for a companion. Creator of nature paid heed to man’s request and provided a ‘life companion and a partner’ in the person of Eve (woman).

It goes on to say that, after sometime in the garden of Eden,  Eve led Adam to sin and the duo were thrown out of the beautiful garden. This made the creator regretted ever ‘choosing’ a life partner for a man and has since then given man the free will to select his own partner!
If the aforesaid is enough to make a logical claim,  then, man has since creation been a victim of choices and decisions. Fathers and Uncles hardly bequest wealth and property to relatives on the mere grounds of blood relations. The modern day individual needs to sow , water and harvest the product of his/her own decisions.
It is now a topical issue in our modern day social circles-social life owing to the alarming rate of divorces and heart breaks especially in our part of the world.

Experts and hundreds of relationship counsellors have attributed the emerging trend of break ups to  unquantifiable number of  factors.

 Conventionally, you and I would easily think of trust, betrayal , cheating et al as the major causes of truncated relationships or better still marriage.

By dint of direct and indirect insight, I can clearly state that , relationship is synonymous to any other business entity.
You can’t expert a relationship to survive if you don’t invest in it-investment in the colour of time, energy and money. Like a business venture, relationship is very expensive – and it doesn’t cost only money.
A living relationship is the one that thrives on effective communication, unusual sacrifices, respect and commitment. A business will collapse if the PR fails to the task. How you relate to your partner is very keen. Do you see him/her as a complement or you are just complacent and think you are always right?

Wack relationships are built on lies , mistrust, self-centeredness and an unnecessary desire for sex- physical attraction counts a lot in establishing a lasting relationship , however it is never the live wire.
In relationships, the little things people take for granted-basic courtesy can cost you that cherished relationship. Thus, one has negotiate, tolerate the opinions of others ,  adopt and above all sacrifice for the good of all.

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Successful business tycoons are mostly those with a  sustained relationships. The reason is very obvious, if you can not manage and grow your private relationship/marriage how then do you intend to grow your business?

Human behaviour is too complex to predict. However, like the business arena, you will have less control over prices and stocks. In the world of uncertainty, will your business crash due to a glitch in stocks and the fluctuations in prices? Certainly no!  There is always a way out. We have our destinies in our hands.

The Eves are not supposed to wait until an Adam request their presence. You can grow you social man just like you dreamt of.
On the other hand, the Adams are aware what nature said. No Eves are going to be created upon request. They exist are you have to figure them out.

Be with the best person in relationship and treat them like your well invested business. If it’s difficult to detect a best partner for your life time relationship, create them like an entrepreneur. A ‘good’ relationship is an asset and a ‘bad’ one is of course, a liability!

OBJECT IN THE MIRROR

Mirror mirror…You are the one I see and I’m the one you see anytime I look at you.  When I’m before you, the world is behind me.  You never gave me a second to explain why, just because you are ever ready to retaliate any time I go off the line.
My smiles may get me going , but I go faster anytime you reflect them back to me.
I taught of frowning , and there you pause laughing. As I keep some distance, then I saw you departing. With you, my flaws and shortcomings never go unnoticed. You keep record of every step I take. But I commend you for one thing, in my absence , you never reveal  my personality to the world- oh jealousy!

Time is running out-Yes I know ! , but let’s maintain the distance at par. In alacrity, we await the bound of affection so unrelenting and indelible. I am certain that you will never go beyond how far I would go. As I bend , I see you bending too. But I’m happy we remain unbroken.

There is an opportunity in this adversity. That’s the moment you shown me reality. In times of  sorrow, rejection and dejection, I help by  installing unquantifiable infectious smiles on your face.

Before I could say Jack, you have become an expert in explaining the law of Karma-you made me your carbon copy.
A child figuring how you do so may desire to touch and have a feel of you by trying to going behind the mirror just to see a thin air. I also thought I’ve been deceived a million times because at a point , I did same. As I grow , I remembered what Mum said , ”

Piesie , what you are seeing in there is your reflection and nothing else.

” Thence I remembered what’s inscribed in the driving mirror “objects in the mirror are closer than they appear.” 

The Distance That Matters

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As humans , we mostly find it difficult to distant ourselves from the people we love , cherish and care about. Simply because we are emotionally or psychologically attached to the physical or implied presence of such people. But is that always the case that such people will return the affection and the feeling we have for them?

At times keeping a distance from those that we have at heart could be the solution to our woes. My biblical interactions has taught me a lot.  Moses had an extraordinary encounter with God and was given the powerful constitution of the Christian fraternity the very time he distanced himself from the Israelites on mount Sinai.

Also , our lord and Saviour Jesus Christ saw the face of earlier prophets when he distanced himself from his disciples to Pray alone. These are but few of biblical references to the essence of a temporary breakdown in relationship.  Some times you just have to distant yourself from things you loved most so as to analyse things from other perspectives.

Ramayana once said “Blow ‘o wind to where my loved one is. Touch him and come touch me soon. I’ll feel his gentle touch through you and meet his beauty in the moon. These things are much for the one who loves. One can live by them alone: that he and I breathe the same air and that the earth we tread is one.”

Distance provides us the right opportunity to reflect on why a relationship broke up and also right our wrongs. Broken covenants are rejuvenated when lessons are learnt from breakups.

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“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” — Helen Kelle