Unlike those period where one could inherit a property from a relative on the ticket of uncle or most commonly father’s inheritance, the gradual alterations in the extended family system and the inevitable winds of civilization is making such a system of inheritance defunct.
In our modern days, succession plans are documented and binding. One is expected to workout his future instead of relying on a father or an Uncle for a family property.
Interesting enough, a concocted story has been carved out of the creation story. Jokingly, it is said that when the creator of the universe created man(Adam), he felt lonely and requested for a companion. Creator of nature paid heed to man’s request and provided a ‘life companion and a partner’ in the person of Eve (woman).
It goes on to say that, after sometime in the garden of Eden, Eve led Adam to sin and the duo were thrown out of the beautiful garden. This made the creator regretted ever ‘choosing’ a life partner for a man and has since then given man the free will to select his own partner!
If the aforesaid is enough to make a logical claim, then, man has since creation been a victim of choices and decisions. Fathers and Uncles hardly bequest wealth and property to relatives on the mere grounds of blood relations. The modern day individual needs to sow , water and harvest the product of his/her own decisions.
It is now a topical issue in our modern day social circles-social life owing to the alarming rate of divorces and heart breaks especially in our part of the world.
Experts and hundreds of relationship counsellors have attributed the emerging trend of break ups to unquantifiable number of factors.
Conventionally, you and I would easily think of trust, betrayal , cheating et al as the major causes of truncated relationships or better still marriage.
By dint of direct and indirect insight, I can clearly state that , relationship is synonymous to any other business entity.
You can’t expert a relationship to survive if you don’t invest in it-investment in the colour of time, energy and money. Like a business venture, relationship is very expensive – and it doesn’t cost only money.
A living relationship is the one that thrives on effective communication, unusual sacrifices, respect and commitment. A business will collapse if the PR fails to the task. How you relate to your partner is very keen. Do you see him/her as a complement or you are just complacent and think you are always right?
Wack relationships are built on lies , mistrust, self-centeredness and an unnecessary desire for sex- physical attraction counts a lot in establishing a lasting relationship , however it is never the live wire.
In relationships, the little things people take for granted-basic courtesy can cost you that cherished relationship. Thus, one has negotiate, tolerate the opinions of others , adopt and above all sacrifice for the good of all.
Successful business tycoons are mostly those with a sustained relationships. The reason is very obvious, if you can not manage and grow your private relationship/marriage how then do you intend to grow your business?
Human behaviour is too complex to predict. However, like the business arena, you will have less control over prices and stocks. In the world of uncertainty, will your business crash due to a glitch in stocks and the fluctuations in prices? Certainly no! There is always a way out. We have our destinies in our hands.
The Eves are not supposed to wait until an Adam request their presence. You can grow you social man just like you dreamt of.
On the other hand, the Adams are aware what nature said. No Eves are going to be created upon request. They exist are you have to figure them out.
Be with the best person in relationship and treat them like your well invested business. If it’s difficult to detect a best partner for your life time relationship, create them like an entrepreneur. A ‘good’ relationship is an asset and a ‘bad’ one is of course, a liability!
Piesie Godfred 